Embrace your destiny and walk in his grace - he is your strength when you are weak, he lifts you up when you can't reach.....
Hello my dear friends, in my second last post I said, I was committed to speak to my man in his love language, and I absolutely am - yet I am just realizing, that in order, to learn this love language (and that works for all types of relationships in our lives - children, coworkers, bosses, friends - really anybody we come into contact with on a more regular basis), we have to pay close attention, as to how they speak to us.....most of the times, they reveal their love language to us, through what they give us.....let's say, for someone it's giving gifts - they will give you gifts, others, it's writing you little love notes, that's most likely their love language - again others do things for you..... - when we pay attention to how people treat us, we can learn so much about, how they would like to be treated......
So my commitment goes even deeper - I pledge to learn the love language, that the people closest to me, speak, and I will speak it back to them - and I will always address the queen or the king that resides inside them - for we all desire to be seen, accepted, and appreciated.
So far I have seen great change in my relationships, when I do that - and most relationships have gained depth in the course of it. Sometimes it also helps, to say, what you'd like to receive.....but I have noticed, that, thanks to God having healed my heart in such a deep way, that my happiness is no longer in relation to others feeding my needs through speaking my love language back to me - even though I love it, when it's done - and then that relationship is definitely one that means a great deal to me......
I can detect this, by how my heart responds, and often time, when someone hits the right cord, my eyes well up and I shed a tear or two, or even an entire river in mere gratitude...... - you may remember, when I spoke about the special birthday I had this year - well, it was mainly, because the people spoke my love language back to me.
Ultimately it's not so hard, to learn the language of the other person - ask God, to help you to detect which one it is, and then ask him, to help you, to speak it back to the other person - you will see, that eventually things will change, and if not, maybe you have to tell the other person - I know, that we all wish, that the other person would feel or know, how we would like to be treated, but the truth is, that some are being better at reading others, than others, and some people, try very hard, but still have difficulty detecting the right one - talking sure helps. Don't walk away, if the other person doesn't speak to you in your love language......pray about it, ask God for help, in how you should could approach him or her.....and trust, that God will make a way, where there seems to be no way!!!
This whole concept just really sank from head knowledge to heart knowledge a couple of day ago, even though I read the book many years ago - the book is called the '5 Love Languages' by Gary Chapman..... - in case you are interested.
My friends, I gotta go to bed - tonight I had my first harp recital - Geez, was I ever nervous - and i missed a lever change, but people told me, that had I not made this face, that gave it away, that I messed up, nobody would have noticed.....I shall be working on that - next year will be another chance and I will then have 2 years of lessons under my belt - it was great to see and hear students of all different levels of expertise play tonight - it showed me, how I will be doing in a year or even 7 years down the road - I am so committed to this instrument.....I never thought I would be able to say that. I simply love love love the harp.
Be blessed my friends - I love you - praying that you will find out, what love language your partner, child, boss, employee, friend and spouse or significant other speaks, and that you might learn to speak to them in their respective love language......
In the powerful name of Christ I pray
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